by Christine Hammond on January 26, 2019
As a therapist, I hear my clients say, “I’m sorry” frequently. It is done when a person wants to move on to a different topic, when they are not truly remorseful, when they want to pacify their spouse, or when they are feeling defeated. None of these apologies are good because the underlying meaning is not authentic…. (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 25, 2019
It was in the middle of an argument during a marriage counseling session that Jerry blurted out, “You are more interested in your phone than me.” His frustration had reached the tipping point with his wife as he revealed his insecurity and feelings of disrespect, detachment, and disconnection from her. Jan, his wife, denied his… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 19, 2019
Dave started going to counseling because his marriage was falling apart. He said that his wife had enough of his “lack of presence, no emotional response, and no intimacy.” While he agreed with her analysis, he was unable to describe it for himself and minimized the impact these things played in their marriage. He reasoned… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 18, 2019
It wasn’t until Tabitha had dinner at a friend’s house as a teenager that she realized there was something odd about how her family handled food. At her friend’s, there was food with a variety of healthy and even some unhealthy snacks. Her mother didn’t have a lock on the “special food” so no one could have access. Their… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 14, 2019
Morgan had not noticed the book, The Prince, sitting predominately on her bosses’ credenza. Perhaps she hadn’t previously been in the office long enough to look around, but now seeing the book, everything became clear. Her boss had a common saying during meetings, “The end always justifies the means,” and expected everyone to operate on that… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 11, 2019
After meeting his new boss for the first time, Donald was impressed. Here was someone who ran his own business, was highly successful, knew nearly everyone in town, had considerable power and had enormous influence. He was charming, decisive, domineering, unfeeling, harsh, and intimidating. At first, Donald admired his boss. But then he had a… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 5, 2019
At a family gathering, Susie’s 2-year-old son was happily running around until her mother-in-law pulled out her cane and tripped him. Susie looked on in horror as the grandmother laughed while her son cried from the fall. Then the grandmother yelled at the boy for crying, calling him a crybaby. Susie swept up her son… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 5, 2019
Hailey was mortified by what happened at the last party. She watched as a “friend” flirted with her boyfriend and then made a pass at him right in front of her. Worst yet, her boyfriend returned the kiss and then left with her shortly afterward. Embarrassed and ashamed, Hailey was furious at both her boyfriend… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 4, 2019
Ralph woke up in the middle of the night to his wife putting a pillow on his head. He was laying on his back and she placed her pillow evenly on top of his head while her body straddled his. Instead of moving, he lay there silently wondering how long she would keep the pillow… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 3, 2019
Mark thought he had attention deficit disorder (ADD). He couldn’t sit still, struggled to focus, was easily distracted, impulsive, and frequently forgot things. Even a medical doctor believed that he had ADD. However, when he took the appropriate medication, things got worse, not better. Frustrated and confused, he became worried that he had a more… (more…)