by Christine Hammond on December 20, 2018
After reviewing the 7 types of abusive behavior checklist, Mariah identified the abuse she received as well as the abuse she gave. Her mother was verbally, mentally, and physically abusive with her as a child, something that Mariah pushed aside and did not confront until in therapy. But what really saddened her was becoming aware… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
A bruise is not a requirement for proof of abusive behavior. There are many other ways a person can be abused. Abuse can be manipulation, exploitation, maltreatment, neglect, violence, cruelty, harm, hurt, ill-treatment, and exploitive. The seven ways it is manifested are physical, mental, verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, and spiritual. The following list is not… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
It is apparent that something is out of sorts. At first, the person who was extremely charming, almost too good to be real has now become intimidating, demanding, and even threatening. The pathological lying over trivial matters, even when caught, can no longer be ignored. They are unreliable, unrelenting, irresponsible, disruptive, outrageous, traumatizing, insincere, unrepentant,… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
One of the many consequences of abusive behavior is a change in the victim’s thinking patterns. After years of badgering, the victim finally adopts the abuser’s distorted reasoning. In many cases, the victim does not become an abuser. Rather, as they attempt to minimize further abuse, their survivor instincts take over in anticipation of the… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
The 1800’s nursery rhyme, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” is not true for most people. Some people do have the natural ability to emotionally disconnect when being insulted. (They usually struggle with being emotionally engaged in pleasant circumstances as well.) For everyone else, words have meaning and… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
“This person is so controlling,” is stated about someone who instructs others on who they are, how they feel, what to think, and how to act. It is exhausting to be around this type of person. But how do they operate? Controllers tend to use the same tactic over and over in multiple environments. Once… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
Can controlling people be successfully managed? It depends on the type of behavior and the willingness to try several tactics. A controller can be a friend, neighbor, boss, co-worker, spouse, or parent. Here are several ways to effectively deal with them. Identify the type of controlling behavior. There are many ways a person can be… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
Potential harm from a seemingly innocent social media connect is just a few step away. Here are the steps predators use to groom victims. Silent Stalk – Social media is the perfect environment for predators to sift through potential targets. The more difficult prey place security restrictions on who can view their posts, are careful… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on August 17, 2017
It had been years since Stephanie heard from her ex-husband. He would send the occasional random text messages with some type of mime or joke, but nothing of substance until today. Today’s remarks came across as brash and accusatory. Hidden between the lines of communication was a demand for a face-to-face meeting and a threat… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on June 23, 2017
The mistrial of the sexual assault case against Bill Cosby has reignited old stereotypes about rape and abuse. Some new acquaintances of mine, who were unaware of my vocation, commented their satisfaction of the outcome siting several reasons. Rather than argue my position, I chose to listen to a barrage of ignorance and blame casing…. (more…)