by Christine Hammond on May 23, 2020
Passive-aggressive anger can be broken down into exactly what it claims to be based on its given name. “Passive” represents the trait of a person who is angry but doesn’t express it, and then “aggressive” quite literally means they are hostile through the process refusing to do something later. This can manifest through forgetfulness, procrastination,… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on May 22, 2020
One of the most frustrating experiences is to live or work with someone who is constantly passive-aggressive (PA). Their refusal to accept responsibility even for the simplest things is aggravating. At home or work, there is a constant flow of tasks needing completion which are outside normal expectations. PA’s will not take the initiative and… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
Anger is expressed in one of four ways. Three out of the four types are unhealthy manifestations: aggressive, passive-aggressive and suppressive. While only one, assertive is healthy. Most people remain consistently in one or two categories depending on the circumstances. For instance, a person might be aggressive at home (because they are more comfortable) but… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
The usual hostility that divorce equally brings in couples is not as apparent when a passive-aggressive (PA) person is involved. Instead, the non-passive-aggressive person will appear to be irrationally raging over numerous accusations while the PA appears calm and rational. The PA’s outward emotionless demeanor further aggravates the situation while their inward fuming anger is… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on September 22, 2017
John regularly told his wife, Jane, “I feel all alone in this world (within our family, at my job, or in our neighborhood).” In the beginning of their marriage, Jane erroneously believed that she could fill that void in his life and went to great lengths to demonstrate that John was not alone. However, he… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on August 25, 2017
Remember when then President Bill Clinton defended his improper relationship with Monica Lewinsky by saying, “it depends on what your definition of ‘is’ is”? That classic line sounds almost ridiculous as there is only one meaning to the word is. It stands to reason that other simple words such as ‘yes’ and ‘no’ would likewise… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on April 12, 2017
There is a moment of realization when working with a person who seems nice on the surface that something is not right. It usually comes in a flash and without awareness, it retreats just as quickly. It is important to listen to those warning signals. Deceptive people often mask their deviousness, anger, manipulation, and controlling… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on November 29, 2016
At first, they seem so quiet and unobtrusive; a refreshing break from the normal banter of one-up-man-ship that frequently dominates an initial conversation. But then the sly remarks characteristic of inattentiveness began, along with a victimization mentality where the whole world is out to get them, and a hypersensitivity to unintentional disparaging comments. The switch… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on September 6, 2016
The Overt Narcissists are easy to spot as they literally suck the life out of a room and absorb all of the positive and negative attention. They love to be on center stage, need constant admiration, crave affection even from inappropriate sources, and seek adoration affirmation. The Covert Narcissists (CN) or the Silent Narcissists are… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on August 12, 2016
One of the most frustrating experiences is to live or work with someone who is constantly passive-aggressive (PA). Their refusal to accept responsibility even for the most minuet things is aggravating. At home or work, there is a constant flow of tasks needing completion which are outside normal expectations. PA’s will not take the initiative… (more…)