by Christine Hammond on February 15, 2019
At first, it sounds like a silly question. Not to Julie. She was trying to pin down a new definition after having been in an abusive relationship for eight years. She wanted love. She wanted to be in love and be loved by someone who treated her right. But the years of abuse had conditioned… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on November 27, 2017
It took a while for Matt to realize what was going on with his daughter, Nancy. By 26 years old, Nancy graduated from college, secured a good job, and purchased her first home. She was intelligent, beautiful, talented, and resourceful. So when she met John, who on the surface seemed to match her characteristics, Matt… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
The release of names and emails hacked from the on-line cheater’s website Ashley Madison stirs up questions of fidelity even in the best of relationships. This is especially true in light of some high profile confessions. The website promise of anonymity has been comprised and what was done in secret is now being revealed. But… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
The usual hostility that divorce equally brings in couples is not as apparent when a passive-aggressive (PA) person is involved. Instead, the non-passive-aggressive person will appear to be irrationally raging over numerous accusations while the PA appears calm and rational. The PA’s outward emotionless demeanor further aggravates the situation while their inward fuming anger is… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on July 25, 2017
It was love at first sight when Alice first met her partner. They seemed so perfect for each other, falling instantly and intensely in love. Now only three years later, she was dazed, confused, frustrated, anxious, and severely depressed by the relationship. What was so ideal before was now a nightmare. How did this happen?… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on April 5, 2016
As a counselor who has worked with over a thousand couples, I’m still shocked by the resistance that comes from a simple suggestion of dating your spouse. After all, it is not a new concept. There are hundreds of books, seminars, conferences, YouTube videos, and articles detailing the benefits of regularly dating your spouse. Yet… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on August 12, 2014
Do you have the same argument with your spouse over and over? Can you recite their response even before you begin? Are you losing interest in even having conversations with them? This can be the beginning of no communication cumulating in an unhappy marriage or divorce. There is a better way. It can change. By listening, looking and… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on September 17, 2013
Is it normal or abnormal if your spouse… Does the exact same routine every morning and is resistant to any variation or change. Losses their temper over minor traffic infractions and threatens harm. Craves being the center of attention and is constantly seeking recognition. Shuts down and refuses to speak for days with no explanation… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on April 25, 2013
One of the hardest decisions of my life was to get a divorce. At some point and time you finally come to the sad realization that you bring out the worse and not the best in your spouse and vice versa. While there were many appropriate reasons for my divorce, airing them out now would… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on March 29, 2013
No, I am not a man-hater and this article is not meant to be taken seriously. Rather it is written tongue-in-cheek to demonstrate the obvious and not so obvious ways a you can show disrespect to your husband. Sometimes the best way of understanding something is to begin with what it isn’t. While this can… (more…)