by Christine Hammond on October 24, 2018
After 15 years of a tumultuous marriage, Mario decided to divorce his wife. He had enough. His wife Vanessa cheated on him several times, repeatedly lied, her physical abuse escalated into hitting, and there was no evidence that she might be addicted to drugs. Wanting the marriage to end as quickly as possible, he skipped… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Natalie didn’t get it. She watched her sister tolerate an abusive spouse who routinely left her for another woman and then returned on a whim. Her sister knew he was an adulterer, arrogant, intolerable, demanding, condescending, cruel, and controlling. She complained about him, said she wanted to leave, but then when push came to shove,… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Have you ever wondered what a therapist is thinking about while you talk about your relationship woes? While I can’t speak for all therapists, I do look for specific factors that can determine success or failure in any relationship. When an area is revealed, such as a pattern of lying, it needs to be therapeutically… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Looking back over their 15-year marriage, Andrew began to see the early signs of paranoia in his wife not long after they met. She was overly fearful of new environments, believed her boss was secretly out to get her, and constantly worried that he wasn’t being loyal to her. But he loved her and thought… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on February 27, 2018
Having grown up in an abusive family and now in a relationship with an abusive person, Bailey believed the lame excuses constantly dished out to her. Beaten down, confused, hazy, and exhausted, she sought out help from a therapist. At first, she could not comprehend that she was the victim of abuse. She thought abuse… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 6, 2018
Every wonder what causes an immediate attraction the first time two people meet? Sarah finally discovered that she kept dating the same type of abusive person over and over. Bill accidentally called his new girlfriend his mother in the middle of an argument. Steven who was shy his whole life married a flamboyant salesperson. While… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on November 27, 2017
At 45 years old, Brian did not know who he was or what he wanted. From the outside looking in, he seemed to have it all: money, family, career, and friends. But in reality, life was very different. He managed to have a successful career at a job he did not like. His 20-year abusive… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
Sometimes the charm of a narcissist inhibits your client from seeing the narcissism. When your client first met their spouse, there was something about them that was enticing. It seemed like an irresistible pull to someone who so perfectly matched their needs and wants. However, the fairy tale engagement and marriage came to an abrupt… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
Divorce is hard. No healthy person enters into a marriage for the sole purpose of getting a divorce. Marriage is designed to be a long-term loving commitment between two people. But each person brings baggage into the marriage which can cause one or both spouses to act out inappropriately. Prolonged, unrepentant damage often leads to… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 12, 2017
The release of names and emails hacked from the on-line cheater’s website Ashley Madison stirs up questions of fidelity even in the best of relationships. This is especially true in light of some high profile confessions. The website promise of anonymity has been comprised and what was done in secret is now being revealed. But… (more…)