by Christine Hammond on October 22, 2018
Kelvin’s life was in shambles once again. The past 30 years of his adulthood resulted in three divorces with children from each marriage, five significant career changes, and several moves across the country. As he moved back into his parent’s house for the fourth time in his adult life, he knew he needed to change. This was… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Mark’s wife began by verbally abusing him early on in the marriage. As the years progressed, so did her abusive behavior escalating into her throwing and destroying his phone. He wants to get a divorce, but also wants to wait until after his daughter graduates from high school which is about one year away. Natalie’s… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
narcissist?” width=”300″ height=”169″ /> Brenda stumbled upon the definition of narcissism while googling difficult bosses. Curious, she began reading several articles on the subject. At first, she only saw her boss as narcissistic but as she explored further, she began to wonder if she was a narcissist. Several of the characteristics ran true over the… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Marie and her twin sister Rose had the same childhood experiences. They went to the same schools, had the same teachers, liked the same activities and enjoyed the same friends. Yet as they got older, Marie excelled in her job, had a stable marriage, and was satisfied with her achievements. Meanwhile, Rose became an alcoholic,… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Aaron was distraught. He finally realized that he left his abusive childhood home only to recreate it as an adult. This was not his intent. He wanted more for himself and his children. The peace he longed for had never been achieved either within himself or in his environment. His mother was an abusive alcoholic… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Natalie didn’t get it. She watched her sister tolerate an abusive spouse who routinely left her for another woman and then returned on a whim. Her sister knew he was an adulterer, arrogant, intolerable, demanding, condescending, cruel, and controlling. She complained about him, said she wanted to leave, but then when push came to shove,… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
At the start of their initial marriage counseling session, I asked Kevin and Karen, “What can I help you with?” With equal amounts of conviction, both of them said communication. As a therapist, I admit that upon hearing this statement I immediately dismiss it. The reasoning is simple: most people who enter marriage counseling struggle… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Angel came into counseling knowing that something was wrong but not knowing what it was. After being married for seven years, he noticed his wife became more secretive and distant. Money from their savings account was missing and unaccounted for, his wife would disappear frustrated and return weirdly happy, and she seemed to get angry… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
When twelve years of marriage ended, Jack realized during the divorce that his wife was narcissistic. The cold-hearted way she treated their marriage and the divorce highlighted her insensitivity, arrogance, lack of remorse, and superiority complex. Now, Jack was left to pick up the pieces of his shattered life and find a way to move… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on October 7, 2018
Have you ever wondered what a therapist is thinking about while you talk about your relationship woes? While I can’t speak for all therapists, I do look for specific factors that can determine success or failure in any relationship. When an area is revealed, such as a pattern of lying, it needs to be therapeutically… (more…)