by Christine Hammond on April 22, 2015
It seems like it happened all at once. One moment you were praising your kid for being so good and the next thing you know he/she is a completely different child in a foreign looking body. Not only are the clothing choices a bit different but the shoe size is rapidly increasing, the attitude is becoming… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on April 13, 2015
Beneath all of that bravado and charm lies a hidden secret the narcissist doesn’t want you to find. They will do anything to protect their secret from you. They might lie about it. Or they might divert your attention with an innovative story. Or they might project their secret onto you. Come close to figuring… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on April 7, 2015
The conversation with your narcissistic spouse starts with good intentions over some issue needing to be addressed. Knowing the propensity of overreaction, you gently proceed. At first, your spouse takes everything in stride so you relax. You let your guard down. Then it happens. An insignificant comment (not the main point) suddenly ignites a firestorm…. (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 23, 2015
Has sex become something you just do rather than enjoy? Do you feel pressured into having sex? Is it possible to be sexually abused in a marital relationship? Sexual abuse can happen to both men and women in and out of a marital relationship. In a relationship with a narcissist, however, that abuse becomes magnified…. (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 13, 2015
“Money is a mechanism for control,” David Korten, a former Harvard Business School professor states. And narcissists know this all too well. Even a little bit of money gives a narcissist a sense of power and domination over others. It starts off small with the little things like removing your name from the accounts and… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 7, 2015
Narcissistic verbal abuse is powerful. A talented narcissist can wear you down and then spin you around so fast you hardly know what has happened. Before you realize it, the narcissist has convinced you that what is up is really down and their verbal assaults are actually your fault. For this reason, verbal abuse is… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on January 5, 2015
Religious abuse exists in every type of faith. Oftentimes, it is not the religion itself that is the problem but the people within the practice. This is precisely why it is hard to getaway. Most likely it began with an attraction of sorts, a need being filled, companionship, and a sense of belonging. But those… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on December 30, 2014
If you suspect religious abuse, ask your clients this: is spiritual perfectionism demanded? Are you terrified of not being accepted? Does the narcissist in your life have crazily ridiculous implausible spiritual expectations? There was a time when your religious beliefs brought you companionship and peace, but now you struggle with intimacy, insecurity, and comparison. You… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on December 17, 2014
If you have clients who are intentionally exploited by their spouses; endure regular insults and rejection, alternating with affirmation; and feel manipulated into doing or saying something out of character, then they might be experiencing abuse. Abuse is not just physical. There are many other forms of abuse, such as sexual, financial, emotional, mental, and… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on September 1, 2014
Rosa’s sex drive was strong just a few short years ago, but now it had severely tapered off and threatened her marriage. In all other areas of her life, she was successful. She owned a small business, married for 15 years, and had two wonderful children. But this area eluded her. Just the thought of… (more…)