Don’t Argue: Use These 9 Rules of Engagement
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17 Deceptive Excuses for Abusive Behavior
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Lies Abusers Tell Their Victims
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Have a Difficult Kid? Do These 7 Techniques
Maggie and James were involved parents. They participated in their kid’s school, coached a team or two, helped with homework, and knew the names of their kid’s friends. But for some reason, one of their three kids was constantly in trouble. The other two enjoyed a great reputation at their school but their sister was… (more…)
10 Signs of a Passive-Aggressive Person
Tess was immediately annoyed in the presence of her manager and she couldn’t understand why. She normally got along with a wide-range of personalities, had no issue with authority, and was generally well-liked by most. But for some reason, every time she saw her manager, she wanted to run in the opposite direction. Their conversations… (more…)
7 Steps to Emerging from the Abuse Fog
It finally hit. After years of wondering what was wrong, who was crazy, and how this could have happened, the reality of abusive behavior hits like a ton of bricks. The insight is simultaneously overwhelming, shocking, frustrating, disgusting, and demeaning. But there it is the answer that was longed for but may never have been… (more…)
10 Indications a Relationship is Going Sour
Hindsight is a 20/20 vision when it comes to the fall of a relationship. What was once overlooked, minimized, explained away, or discounted now becomes an obvious sign of a deteriorating relationship. At first, they seemed so charming, helpful, generous, innocent, and gentle but then things turned, and an entirely different picture became apparent. Charming… (more…)
Recognizing the Narcissist Abandonment Cycle
“I never want to see you again,” Marie shouted to her husband as she slammed the door on the way out. Adam stood still wondering if she would immediately turn around as she had so many times before or if she would dramatically wait. Either way, he was no longer going to nervously run after… (more…)
Four Reasons “Why?” is the Wrong Question
Mike found himself regularly confused by other people. Even though he was successful in his career, he struggled with personal connections. He had professional relationships, but they were very superficial and only existed within a work environment. When he tried to converse outside of business matters, he only ended up sounding awkward and unintelligent. The… (more…)
How to Escape the Honeymoon Phase of Narcissistic Abuse
Sam saw a disturbing pattern in her marriage between herself and her partner. After her narcissistic husband would explode combining verbal assaults with mental and emotional abuse, he would enter a calmer phase of interaction for several weeks – almost allowing her to believe the abusive behavior had completely ceased. Then, as if there was… (more…)