by Christine Hammond on December 19, 2019
After Joe got in trouble at home for sneaking out of the house in the middle of the night, his parents sent him into counseling to be “fixed”. It wasn’t too long during the sessions that it became apparent that Joe’s father was a narcissist. Some of the frustrations that Joe was experiencing were directly… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on December 14, 2019
When a parent physically abuses their child, it leaves marks and outbursts of anger in the child. When they verbally abuse their child, it strips them of self-confidence and instills fear. When they sexually abuse their child, it destroys the possibility of intimacy and healthy sexuality. But when a parent mentally abuses their child by… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on August 30, 2019
Shortly after Jonathan’s divorce was finalized, he lost his job. Worried that he would not be able to maintain the alimony and child support payments, he reluctantly took a job four hours away. The timing couldn’t have been any worse. His ex-wife already blamed him for the problems in their marriage, the intensifying tension in… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on August 28, 2019
Since writing an article about parental alienation (What Parental Alienation Is and Is Not), several readers have asked for a follow-up article on how to prevent to minimize the damage of any alienation they have experienced. While others have said that parental alienation doesn’t happen, that it is pop-psychology, and it is not real. I… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on July 5, 2019
Marie’s first response to her therapist when asked about her childhood was “It was fine, my dad was perfect”. Now, this statement is gold for a therapist and begs to be mined further. After indulging Marie in the perfect father fantasy for a few minutes, the therapist took things on a different approach and asked… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on June 22, 2019
Trying to pick a card for Father’s Day is impossible for Mary. None of the cards she found reflected her experience. Her dad wasn’t present, didn’t support her interests, didn’t attend activities when she was a kid or offer good advice. He did, however, go to work on his days off, sit on the couch… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on June 21, 2019
Maladaptive dads are constantly in the news. They make the headlines with excessive abuse, abandonment of responsivity, neglectful actions, or even the death of their children by their own hands. While the headline is sensational, it can give the appearance that all dads are bad. But this is not true. Unfortunately, not much attention is… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on June 4, 2019
Elizabeth hadn’t heard from her daughter in years. The rift between them started shortly after her daughter’s marriage. There were signs when her daughter and husband were dating that something was not right. But Elizabeth couldn’t put her finger on it. The harder she tried to figure it out, the further her daughter became. She… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on June 3, 2019
“You can have many spouses, but only ONE mother!” Maureen’s narcissistic mother screamed at her as she left her mother’s house. The intention was good. It was Mother’s Day and Maureen wanted to see her mom. She called her mom the week before, letting her know that she would be stopping by. Her mom seemed… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on April 1, 2019
Ida realized her mother was a narcissist in her early 20’s. But what she didn’t expect was the developmental impact on her childhood. Normally, a child is given the freedom to explore and express their individuality so they can develop into a confident and well-balanced adult. This nurturing environment prioritizes the needs of the child… (more…)