by Christine Hammond on September 18, 2020
It finally hit. After years of wondering what was wrong, who was crazy, and how this could have happened, the reality of abusive behavior hits like a ton of bricks. The insight is simultaneously overwhelming, shocking, frustrating, disgusting, and demeaning. But there it is the answer that was longed for but may never have been… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on September 17, 2020
Hindsight is a 20/20 vision when it comes to the fall of a relationship. What was once overlooked, minimized, explained away, or discounted now becomes an obvious sign of a deteriorating relationship. At first, they seemed so charming, helpful, generous, innocent, and gentle but then things turned, and an entirely different picture became apparent. Charming… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on September 10, 2020
“I never want to see you again,” Marie shouted to her husband as she slammed the door on the way out. Adam stood still wondering if she would immediately turn around as she had so many times before or if she would dramatically wait. Either way, he was no longer going to nervously run after… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on September 2, 2020
Sam saw a disturbing pattern in her marriage between herself and her partner. After her narcissistic husband would explode combining verbal assaults with mental and emotional abuse, he would enter a calmer phase of interaction for several weeks – almost allowing her to believe the abusive behavior had completely ceased. Then, as if there was… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on August 26, 2020
As soon as Tracey could get away, she ran. It took nearly all night to find the right moment when her date had finally fallen asleep so that she could remove his arm off her body. She silently grabbed her clothes from around the room, putting on enough items to leave the apartment, and carrying… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on August 25, 2020
The first couple of therapy sessions with Trina were rollercoaster rides. One second she was excited about a new job and all of the possibilities it presented, and the next she was anxious and overwhelmed from being a caretaker to her mother. When she came back for her second session she was nervous and depressed… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on July 31, 2020
William was feeling ashamed and embarrassed. For years he tolerated abuse from his wife and had been too humiliated to tell anyone. Knowing he would not strike back at her, she frequently hit him, threw things at him, physically blocked him from leaving the room, and followed him when he was able to pass her, yelling… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on July 20, 2020
The primary purpose of parenting is to raise fully functional adults who can take care of themselves and make a positive contribution to society. Generally speaking, this should be accomplished by the time the child reaches the age of eighteen. After this age, parents have less verbal influence, but can still be a positive role… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on July 19, 2020
Ideally, a child is given the freedom to explore and express their individuality so they can develop into a confident and well-balanced adult. This nurturing environment prioritizes the needs of the child over the parent without overindulgence. But this is not the case when one parent is a narcissist. Most children are unaware of their… (more…)
by Christine Hammond on July 11, 2020
Looking back over their 15-year marriage, Andrew began to see his wife was exhibiting the early signs of paranoia even in memories even from not long after they met. She had always been overly fearful of new environments, vocalized beliefs her boss was secretly out to get her, and constantly worried that he wasn’t being… (more…)